SAHM Vs. WOHM

I posted the "Time" rant on a mothers board that I am on and somehow it turned into a full on war about who has it harder, a SAHM or a WOHM. Here are my thoughts on the subject.The SAHM/WOHM debate is an age old one that gets really heated. I don't think there is a clear cut answer or winner to this debate, which is why it keeps coming up. Frankly very few of us have it "easier" we just have it different. It's really an injustice to women that within our choice to work or stay at home we are facing criticism and obstacles from the opposite view. Many mothers have to work to support thier family because one salary just doesn't cut it, especially not these days. But at the same time, many mom's choose to stay home, even if it means living at darn near poverty levels to do so.SAHM's I feel often feel like we are not looked at as accomplished, contributing members of society. Were slammed with "Fight against the glass ceiling" "Be Independent" "Feminist Power" arguments. I feel like I've lost my knack to communicate with others who are not toddlers or younger. I miss out on using my mind for struggles that can be solved without the use of time out or spankings(another good debate) I fear when I go back to work. How am I going to do that. Will I even have the skills needed to be in a work environment again? Who will hire someone who has stayed home for so long? And for the time being I feel guilty because with mounting debt I am not doing anything to help bring money in. I live day after day doing the same thing, having the same challenges, trying to raise children who will be well rounded while contstantly fighting against my inner struggles as well. The repetitivness of it is exhausting, the energy needed to run after a child all day is impossible to obtain, and the drained feeling a lot of us feel is miserable.WOTH mom's are seriously pushed to thier limits. In America were only given 6 to 8 weeks of maternity leave, and that's if were lucky. So many of us return to work in tears because were missing out on the milestones, the giggles, the sweetness of our babies at home. While at work were faced with arguments that a women should raise her own children, and not have them just to send them away to be raised by someone else. And even in the workplace were still struggling against equality to men leaving a working woman constantly pushing to be better, to reach a comfotable level of accomplishment. And then were made to come home, to prepare dinner, and clean up, help with homework, play games, on and on and on, only to do it again the next day. It's not fair and it's not easy.Both sides have great arguments as to why thier lives are harder. I think many of the arguments, and the reason for being defensive in thier arguments stem from the insecurities each of us feel in whatever position we are in. If we could all come together and appreciate each other for what were worth. If the government would get their heads out of the ground and support parents more, somehow. If we had enough money to make going to work a choice we make not out of need but out of preference then maybe the argument will be quelched. But until then it will rage on, and sadly so, because in the end were all mothers just trying to do the best thing for our families.